Over the last two weeks I have talked about how to attract the opposite sex after divorce. Today I’d like to move on to the next step, the first date. When you haven’t dated for awhile you may not remember what to do on a first date, or you may be very nervous about the date. To avoid common first date mistakes follow these rules.
BUT before we begin, I want to put you on notice… in some cases, even adult children of divorce will have a hard time seeing your date, so prepare your family, whatever age they may be.
The first rule for a first date, according to the Oprah show, is to not approach the first date as a job interview. Don’t provide your date with too much information about yourself and don’t try to mine too much information from them. After all you are basically strangers.
The second rule for a first date is to take steps to ensure it will be a success. One easy way to do this is to set it in a non-threatening fun environment. For example, if you both like sports go to a basketball game or baseball game. Or if you both go to the same church plan a first date at a church event like a picnic or pot luck. The key is to make it easy to have fun.
The third rule for a good first date is to relax and just have fun. Don’t worry if this date will lead to a second date, or to marriage. The purpose of a first date is simply to get to know each other. By relaxing and allowing your date to relax, you are improving your chances that your date will open up to you and that you will be able to open up to them.
When you are just starting to date after a divorce you are going to get both good and bad relationship advice. The key is to listen to this advice and then select the information that is going to make the most sense for your life. The most important thing to remember when opening up to the possibility of a new relationship is to relax, light some scented candles, take things slow and to follow your instincts.
How To Get A Girl
July 5th, 2010 at 13:44
Tomorrow I’m going to ask out a girl who works out at my gym. I am low on money nowadays and I’m trying to think of a “creative” date idea that won’t require me to spend much money. Maybe since we both like to exercise, there’s some type of physical activity we could go out and do together. Or should a first date take place at night, over dinner?
Madeline
December 1st, 2011 at 21:09
You can make dinner for her, take a stroll in the park, find a public place where people play board games like scrabble. Why don’t you go to Meetup.com and see what is happening in your area where you can do something together? You can also go for a hike at a botanical gardens and bring a picnic if it warm outside.