Last week we talked about gifts that you can give yourself to help get you through the holiday season. This week I’d like to talk about a special gift that you can give to your children to help them deal with the challenges of divorced family life. This gift is particularly useful for kids that are having an extra rough time adjusting to the prospects of their parents being divorced. The gift that I am talking about this week is the gift of counseling.
There are many counseling benefits divorced children can take advantage of. The first benefit is simply an opportunity to vent their emotions without feeling guilty, without worrying about being yelled at and without worrying about hurting their parents’ feelings. The second benefit is that if they are experiencing serious emotional problems, beyond what is normal, the counselor has the training to identify these problems and to find a solution.
Deciding to using a counselor is not easy. Parents may feel like they failed their child or they may feel that there is nothing wrong with their child. Even for kids who are adjusting relatively well to the divorce, a few sessions of counseling can be beneficial for them. After all they can talk about their feelings and learn ways to cope with emotional stress in their life. These skills can be used throughout their life and make them a stronger, more independent adult. Finally, counseling sessions can be set up as family sessions where everyone learns how to work together as a divorced family unit.
Great site. I do counseling, wichita falls, texas. Some of my couples rectify their situations and some don’t. I appreciate what you’re offering for the kids of parents who don’t make it.
Thanks,
Dr. Kelly Guthrie
Interesting that you are all going through the same things. But great that you have have found a way to talk and deal with the issues that you are all going through. I think that often when we talk about things we discover ways of solving problem that we would not otherwise know exist.