Last week we talked about how global sociology impacts how a child fares after a divorce. This week I’d like to talk about how families in the U.S. are impacted by divorce and how we can overcome some of the negative pitfalls of divorce. This week’s blog has a goal to create public awareness of hope.
Money is perhaps the key pitfall to divorce, especially when there are children involved. Money is the root of all evil in a divorce. Not because people are overly greedy or that they are materialistic, but because money is what creates security in the modern world. Without it we cannot buy food, obtain shelter or afford medical care that our family needs to stay healthy or respond to injuries and illnesses. It is because of all these things that money brings out the worse in families getting divorced.
In order to overcome the nastiness and ugliness that fighting over money can produce between divorcing or divorced parents, both parties need to realize that the security of their family is what is at the root of the arguments. When parents realize this they can adjust their strategies for negotiating how assets are to be distributed inside their family unit. For example, instead of seeing child support as a punishment or a fine that has to be paid to a former spouse, the parent can view the money as a resource being provided to their children for their well being, security and development.
Changing your point of view about the utilization of money in a divorced family unit is the first step to becoming a happier, more functional family. Money is a resource that is to be used to enhance the well being of your family, regardless if you are married or divorced. Children and divorce are expensive and both require special allocations of money. Be generous with your family, they are a part of you.
