1 commentLast week we talked about counseling benefits for children of divorce. This week I’d like to talk about the gift of peaceful dispute resolution. This is a gift that you, your ex-spouse and your kids will also appreciate. This gift is delivered by two things, the use of divorce mediation and the use of family dispute resolution codes of conduct.
When getting a divorce with children, emotions fly high and people get territorial over their possessions. This is not because they hate their ex-mate (at least not always), but rather they are scared of not having enough assets to survive. One way to alleviate the panic and anxiety, and consequently the fighting and emotional trauma, related to divorce is to work with a divorce mediator. This person is skilled in psychology and law. They keep both people focused on what it important, providing a stable environment for the kids after the divorce. Emotional concerns are dealt with properly and steps are taken to keep things as “friendly” as possible.
The second part of the gift of peaceful dispute resolution is a code of conduct used for divorced family dispute resolution. While it is nice to think that you will never have a fight or disagreement in your family, this is just not practical. People argue and fight, that’s just a fact of life. The key to making family disputes manageable is to create rules for resolving them that are fair and that will keep the family members respectful of one another.
