Divorce brings on so many challenges, especially when you have children, whether they are infants, toddlers, school age or adults. I know, because after 27 years of marriage I found myself single.
During the divorce process I wrote my graduate school thesis on what other…. The Effects of Divorce on Adult Children. The research at that time did not exist. So I studied the effects on younger children and then interviewed adult children of divorce. To my surprise the affect was the same.
When my paper was returned to me, my professor commented, “Either people will think you are crazy or brilliant!” Why? Because the thesis designed a program to help parents to cooperatively co-parent their children. Would you believe that was back in 1993, not so long ago… and this was considered a new concept.
Well, now many people talk about how important it is for parents to be able to cooperatively co-parent, but few actually walk their talk. The purpose of this blog is to provide a place for you to give voice to practical ways to accomplished a positive coexistence with your former spouse and to help others do the same because when you are family to your children you always are family to each other.
divorce rates
August 7th, 2009 at 11:09
congratulations for your thesis! =)
it’s extremely important for parents to guide their children during and after the divorce. Normally, kids who were raised with a divorced or broken family have the tendency to becoming assholes of the society. At the this stage, children need more attention & understanding
monika from relationship coaching
December 17th, 2009 at 06:19
Be Firm in Ending the Relationship. Think it over and over before you decide whether to break the relationship or not. Whatever decision you make will not only affect your future relationship with your partner as well as your children – it can cause a lifetime regret if you’ll realize in the end that it’s him that you want to be with.
link wheel
January 20th, 2010 at 10:22
It was always presumed that dysfunctional marital relationships caused dysfunctional behavior patterns in children.A child’s likelihood of experiencing adjustment problems following divorce depends on the interaction of the child’s temperament and the quality of his or her mother’s parenting style.This means children in divorced families are at greater risk of developing adjustment problems.
oliviya from children sleepwalking
February 23rd, 2010 at 05:46
Interesting that you are going through the same things. But great that you have have found a way to talk and deal with the issues that you are all going through. I think that often when we talk about things we discover ways of solving problem that we would not otherwise know exist.
Agatha from divorce lawyers Athens GA
March 25th, 2010 at 08:05
here are some children who can go through divorce and have no issues, but then there are some that have some serious side effects. When it comes to getting a divorce and your children are involved, you both might want to set down and have a talk. You should explain to the children what is going, why it is happening, and that it’s no one’s fault.
Scott from Fort Bend Divorce
April 6th, 2010 at 02:32
Wow, you were way ahead of your time. I agree completely that many people say that they want to co-parent effectively, but instead they are too hung up on their hostility towards the ex. Unfortunately there are too few who can truly put their children ahead of their own anger.
John from Dating Chat
April 20th, 2010 at 23:22
Really nice! Made made a thesis out of something that the most of us really hate a Divorce!!!
And i think it is really helpful that a man and a woman go out of a divorce as friends… for the Kids!
(sorry for my english i am from Germany)
Jerry from Divorce in El Paso
May 7th, 2010 at 18:06
Congrats on your book! I work for a divorce attorney and we take on so many different cases. Childrens are most important in a case since its hard for them to adjust to a new life. Very challenging!
Teena from Skydiving Sydney
June 3rd, 2010 at 15:13
It’s good to hear that you made an impact on your thesis. Parents when divorced should make an effort to take good care of their children. They should work together to have a good relationship in favor of their children even if they are not together.
Ted
June 4th, 2010 at 07:21
Divorced couples must learn to set aside their pride and cooperate instead for the benefit of the children. It’s understandable if you still have some feelings of hate or anger towards your ex-spouse, but you shouldn’t keep it up because it’s the children who will suffer the most from all this negativity around them. Besides, that’s already in the past now and all you can really do is move forward and help your kids cope with the new situation.
Ted from Tulsa Divorce Attorney
June 4th, 2010 at 07:23
Divorced couples must learn to set aside their pride and cooperate instead for the benefit of the children. It’s understandable if you still have some feelings of hate or anger towards your ex-spouse, but you shouldn’t keep it up because it’s the children who will suffer the most from all this negativity around them. Besides, that’s already in the past now and all you can really do is move forward and help your kids cope with the new situation.
Joe from Divorce Lawyer in Cincinnati
June 16th, 2010 at 20:05
Going through a divorce is not easy, especially if you have kids involved.
Joe from Firefighter Costume
July 12th, 2010 at 12:07
Having a plan to help your kids psychological needs while you go through a divorce is so important. They need to know that they have a strong support base around them. I’ve seen a few divorces now and the ones which turned out best for the kids were the ones where the kids were thought about first…not when it was too late.