0 commentsOne of the issues that you need to prepare for when planning on getting a divorce is the personality change that seems to happen to couples getting divorced. Divorcing people tend to become more greedy and selfish during the divorce process, and this is not because they are necessarily bad people, but because they are afraid of how they are going to survive after the divorce is over, especially if this is a children and divorce situation.
One of the pitfalls that many divorcing parents fall into when getting divorced is focusing on money instead of their children. As discussed in Judith’s Divorce Blog, a spouse’s singular focus on getting as many marital assets as possible can not only prolong and complicate the divorce process, but it can also limit their perspective on what their actions are doing to their family.
To avoid the greed pitfall you really need to develop a divorce plan ahead of time, and with the help of your spouse if at all possible. Using a divorce mediator can help you to focus on an amiable split that is fair and that will create a functional post-divorce parenting unit. To help this process along you both need to create two lists. One list needs to include items or issues that are very important to you and the other is a list of issues and items that you are willing to negotiate on. This will help the negotiation process by prioritizing issues that your divorce settlement will need to deal with.
